Tuesday, 20 August 2013

The Break Up Blog

This is definitely a more personal post and something that I wouldn't normally do but, I've been contemplating writing this post for some time with the idea that It may help some people who may be going through a break-up themselves. So whether you're the dump-ee or the dump-er I hope that this reaches out to some of you In a way and helps you..

I was in a relationship for about 3 years which coincidentally ended around 3 years ago now. I wish I could say It ended on good terms but unfortunately like many relationships, It ended on really bad terms and It was a pretty horrible time. In this instance I was the dump-ee which is never a good feeling (lets be honest) and I was gutted about the whole thing.

When it happened, my first feelings were probably shock and confusion. I didn't really understand what I'd done that was so wrong and I think because he didn't really know how to deal with it himself, It just made things a million times worse. There were definitely times when I felt like I was loosing my mind and that I was never going to feel normal again because the relationship had been such a big part of my life for a long time. Everyone deals with things differently, some people like to get their emotions out there which can result in a lot of social network venting but personally I've never been a huge fan of this and only really confided in people close to me. The best thing I ever did was 'delete' him from my life, this included social networking and his mobile phone. As childish as this sounds, It is just self torture and pretty unhealthy to look through someones Facebook and start making assumptions about girls posting on their page or in their photos particularly when you're feeling down already.

Its sad but true that in my experience boys tend to rebound a lot quicker than girls, particularly if they themselves have ended the relationship. This is something I unfortunately had to deal with which was really hard for me. The best advice I could give anyone in this situation is to keep busy! It is highly likely that they are not sitting around thinking about you all day, so why are you dedicating so much of your time thinking about them?! It won't be easy, you'll still have your bad days.. and night times are definitely the worst! But if you can surround yourself with your close friends, it really does help. I am lucky enough to have some great friends and family members who were there for me throughout.

Fortunately for me I had just got into University so once I was there I barely gave the whole ordeal a second thought because I was constantly busy. Sometimes you just have to get away and experience something new, I come from quite a small town which definitely suffers from 'small town syndrome' making it near on impossible to get away from that kind of situation.
Small towns for sure will incur its fair share of gossip about your recent heartbreak, the best thing you can do is to rise above it. It appeared some of the people in my town seemed to know more about my break up than I did and had their own conclusions about it. Don't waste your time worrying about this, as long as you know what happened that is all that matters and If they have nothing better to talk about then that says a lot about that individual.

I am by no means saying run away from your problems, but maybe do a bit of soul searching, get a hobby, do something you haven't done before or go to university. Take your mind away from the situation.

If there's anything I have learnt from this experience its that being angry and bitter gets you absolutely no where. It just leaves you to wallow in your own misery while the rest of the world is moving on, so don't let that consume you. Feeling sorry for yourself while your listening to someone playing a guitar and singing a song about love will only make you feel worse. Going 'off the rails' and getting hammered all the time isn't fooling anyone, If anything its screaming louder than ever that you're not over it. And contrary to the expression that 'the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else' .. It most definitely isn't!
Just take everything at your own pace.

Break ups can be messy but you do get through it. Although I will never be friends with my Ex boyfriend, we remain relatively civil and respect the fact that we have both moved on with our lives. I am really happy now and am In a loving stable relationship, something I didn't think would ever happen back then.

I hope you've enjoyed reading this post and that it has been helpful to at least one person out there. I would love to hear what your thought of this post so please leave me a comment below.

Friday, 16 August 2013

Festival Essentials

So its V festival this weekend and Reading the weekend after, and as a relatively experienced festival goer I thought I'd share some of my festival essentials (by this I mean what you NEED). Some of them I've purchased, and some things I've already acquired over time so I've done a bit of online browsing to find some of  the best deals.


Left to Right: Treseme hairspray 100ml, Simple eye makeup remover 50ml, Simple light moisturiser 50ml, Batiste dry shampoo in tropical
Miniature products are a great way to save on space when you're packing for a festival.Even now I still manage to over pack every year and instantly regret it because there is always so much queuing to get into the camp site, and doing this with a heavy bag is not the one! I picked up the miniature hairspray, eye make up remover and dry shampoo in a 3 for 2 offer in Superdrug and the small moisturiser in Primark for £1.

Left to Right: Pump bottle 100ml, toothbrush holder, travel bottle 100ml.
 I love the invention of travel bottles, they make it so easy to take just the right amount of product you need for a short holiday or weekend away. This is particularly good when it comes to festivals so you don't have to take whole bottles of your favorite skin care products and risk loosing or ruining them. I also thought the toothbrush holder was a nice idea so I can protect my toothbrush from the mud! All items were £1.59 each but again were on a 3 for 2 offer in Superdrug.

Early days baby wipes twin pack & carex aloe vera hand gel
 If you've ever been to a festival before you will know how much of a life saver these two items are. As you can imagine the toilets are not the nicest and with 1000's of people using them for 3 days, the thought of how many bums have been on those seats is too much to bare! So the baby wipes are great for wiping loo seats and handles and the sanitiser gel to keep my hands germ free. I also tend to use them to freshen up as not all festivals are equipped with nice showers and sometimes its actually more unhygienic to use the shower then it is to slum it! I purchased the twin pack of wipes for £1 from Primark and the hand sanitiser for 99p at Superdrug.

Essential Fashion

Topshop: £25.00

Asos: £16.00
Urban Outfitters: £28.00

I have been looking for a decent bum bag everywhere, but as usual I've left it all to the last minute so all the bargains are sold out everywhere and I'm gonna have to order one of these offline. However if you do have a local Primark and you need one of these, they did stock them for about £4.  Bumbags used to be something associated with tourists and were considered quite gross but are becoming increasingly popular this summer due to these fashionable twists. I think these would be great for a festival as they are much more safe and secure to have around with you than a side bag. One of my pet peeves from festival going in the past is where I've taken a larger bag people want to put all there stuff in it so you end up carrying a heavy load. I will certainly not be anyone's camel this year and will have much more fun dancing around without worrying about my side bag flying everywhere.

River Island: £13.00

Boohoo.com: £8.00
Pac a macs are a festival must have in the great british weather, although most festival stands will provide basic macs quite cheaply those ones are like wearing giant condoms. I managed to scout a few cheap high street pac a macs today but I already have one from last year. If you are still in the market for a cheap fashionable mac H&M do them for about £5.00 and Primark stock them for about £9.00.

Topshop: £26.00

River Island £55.00

Office: £25.00

Office: £10.00

A decent pair of wellies is essential when trawling through the mud and left over food. I got mine a few years ago from an outlet shoe shop for about £25.00. Office have quite a few fun prints left in their sale however if you're more into your named brands they do basic Hunters from as cheap as £25.00. I love River Islands studded design but I'm not sure I'd be willing to part with £55.00 on a pair of wellies. Again if you want to travel light you can purchase wellies at the festival but you will probably get some in the summer sales at a fraction of the cost. 

Primark Knee Highs: Both £2.50

I always pack plenty of knee high socks every year to wear with my wellies. Primark do a range of styles from plain to patterned  and are all really cheap. The ones with the stripes remind me of the classic design American Apparel sell but for a fraction of the cost. If you're feeling slightly more frivolous I'd highly recommend Jack Wills as they do some great quality knee high socks that fit right in with festival fashion.

I hope you've enjoyed reading about some of my festival essentials. Are you going to any festivals or already been to any this year? If so what are your essential/survival items? Please leave me a comment. 

Thanks, Ash x

Tuesday, 13 August 2013

A Week in the West Country

So as I mentioned before one of the reasons I've been a bit quiet on the blogging front recently is that I went for a weeks break with my family and my boyfriend to Somerset.

We actually stayed in a place called Cheddar Woods in Cheddar which unsurprisingly is the home of cheddar cheese. Weirdly I don't think I actually ate any cheddar whilst in Cheddar but my boyfriend assures me it was some very nice cheese.

Anyway, the place we stayed had only just opened and it was so nice. We stayed in these little cabins which were all really lovely and modern and we had our own hot tub so it was really really cool. While we were there we visited the city of Wells, we looked around the cathedral and even ended up having a drink in a pub featured in the film Hot Fuzz. We also obviously visited Cheddar Gorge itself and went round all the caves and climbed 274 steps to see over the whole of Cheddar, and on the hottest day we took a trip down to Weston Supermare. Finally we obviously saved the best until last and went to Longleat Safari Park, where I was in my element. There were monkeys jumping on my dads car (much to his annoyance) and we got to go around Lord Baths house which was very regal and full of old things. And because we visited the Gorge first we saved around £15 on our tickets by purchasing an all in one Gorge and Longleat ticket, so if you're going to see all the sights, make sure you go to the Gorge first!

Its not exactly a week in Greece but it was a lovely week a way and I'd highly recommend visiting Somerset for  break a way if you haven't already been. If you're interested in looking into the place I stayed please click here for the website.

Here are some of the photo's  from my week away, If you liked this post or have any requests for future posts please comment below and tell me your thoughts!